“I never get it right!”
“I’m so frustrated! I think I’ll just give up. ”
“I don’t have the talent!”
You could be familiar with these phrases. The statements we make when we feel inadequate in the positions we find ourselves. Most times, when we’ve tried to put in effort and nothing seems to be working, we ultimately believe maybe that’s not what we’re meant to do.
In whatever way it is that you feel unproductive, one thing to put in mind is, no one was born with the absolute knowledge of what they seem to be good at.
The greatest success stories have had their series of setbacks, but guess what, they learned. We only get to be better when we learn and direct our energy in the right way, and to the things that matter.
Being the best of one’s self is what everyone strives to achieve. The feeling of fulfillment is the ultimate goal for anyone working with passion.
Sadly, it isn’t a pleasure most people get to savour. Your area of need might be totally different from the next person’s, but the methods outlined below will open your understanding to a whole new world of possibilities.
The first stage of overcoming a problem is admitting that you have one. This statement couldn’t have been more accurate.
To feel that you aren’t at your best only means you understand that there is a ‘best’ of you. By telling your mind this, you ignite your unquenchable fire for improvement that with time, will become your daily motivation.
You shouldn’t confuse this with changing aspects of your personality to integrate into a desired community.
“Becoming better should not involve change, it should involve growth.”
A pollen doesn’t ‘change’ to a flower, it grows into it. Like this, you must understand that becoming better takes considerable time. It involves growing into a fullness of yourself, and this should only fuel your determination, not your frustration.
Give yourself time to grow. As the popular saying goes,
“Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
Perfection isn’t attained by a single determined effort. No sir. It takes practice and patience. No one was born as perfect as they might seem. Your mentor wasn’t. Your boss, who seems to have it all under control, wasn’t. They grew. And the thing is, as perfect as anyone might seem, we all still strive to be better. By giving yourself this allowance to grow, you have unlocked a new domain into becoming a better version of you.
Examination here is the process of evaluating one’s self. What are the aspects of your devotion that pressurize you into diminishing productivity? As a worker, is it your work schedule? And as a student, is it school work? Are you overworking yourself or not doing enough? Yes, idleness also contributes to reduced passion because the less your input, the more you might be prone to feeling irrelevant, or unwanted.
By examining yourself this way, you get to know what triggers you off and are able to re-focus your energy. How?
Opening your mind to accommodate new knowledge gives you the ability to experiment with things that might not be so bad after all. As we say, experience is the best teacher, and the sole aim of your experimentation is to gain knowledge, to learn and broaden your horizons, and loosen the bounds you’ve set up in your mind.
Are you a writer? Go on a short cooking course! Travel, explore, you never know where your muse is hidden.
A graphics designer? Why don’t you see what’s happening in the world of photography? In this era and age of networking, everything is undoubtedly connected. Keep busy, but do not mount pressure on yourself.
Remember, the purpose is to open your mind to a world of possibilities.
Be unusual. Restructure your schedule. Try to know something about everything. Volunteer for a communal cause. Now is the time to go for that yearly concert your friend always invited you to. Every experience is a form of learning.
It is important to know that in the course of finding your ‘best’, which might at the moment seem like your alter ego, do not expect too much in a short period of time. Know that it is okay to feel jittery about testing the waters of things you thought impossible.
Don’t overwork yourself with the illusion that you’d hit your optimum prime sooner, as it isn’t the quantity of work you put in, really, it’s the quality. When you make input qualitatively, which is giving your best to whatever it is that you do, your sense of fulfillment rewards you in a way that only strengthens your will to be better.
It is also necessary in this process of becoming a better you that you be mindful of what made you who you used to be. By so doing, you can set positive goals to achieve.
Make a list of these goals and monitor them as you tick off the ones you’ve achieved. For example, if you used to lose concentration fast, you might want to set your goal like this:
“I need to start developing genuine interest in what I’m involved in and try to ask more questions.”
“I need to stop behaving so nonchalantly about my work.”
Setting positive goals would keep your mind on the positive side of you and help you discover your unique abilities instead of creating an avenue for tiring self-condemnation.
Treat yourself when you achieve set goals. A trip to the spa maybe, everyone needs a professional back-rub once in a while. This would also give your brain something to look forward to as a form of reward for all your effort.
Always look at the positive side of every situation. Always point out the good. Being negative only generates negative energy, one which then slowly drags you back to the hollow place of unfulfillment.
As important as it is to set positive goals, it is also necessary that you set your limits. You are human and as such, prone to exhaustion. Although, ‘breaking point’ is only a mindset, know when to rest. Pushing yourself to the extreme will only take an unfavorable turn in the long run.
Find time to take care of yourself too. Too much work will only wear you down physically, emotionally, as well as healthwise. Your brain needs time to rest, allow yourself allowances. Exercise, drink water, exfoliate, and don’t worry. The best of you is in you, and only you can be that person. Good news is, you’re going nowhere!
As badly as you want your business to blow overnight, or get the next promotion, or get an A in that course, neither success nor fulfillment is one-sided. You cannot call yourself successful or fulfilled if your social life suffers at the expense of your goals. You can be selfish, but don’t let your passion drive you. Take the wheel!
If you’re an excellent doctor but lack good interpersonal skills or cannot keep a relationship of any form, you’re yet to know what being successful or fulfilled is. Most likely, patients would prefer your colleague to you because you’re so grumpy. Loosen up. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously.
Your happiness doesn’t come from your fame, money, competence, or proficiency. It comes from your impact on other people’s lives. Are your family and friends happy around you? Do they look forward to seeing you? Are you driven by the passion to become a better you for those around you or yourself? Continuous self-evaluation will help you maintain the balance.
Let’s face it, as long as you have no passion whatsoever in what you do, it is just as much wasted effort because:
What else can you do if you’re a painter by talent and passion but work in a bank as a matter of the situation you find yourself? Just take a break.
You read that right.
If your mind isn’t into what you do and you’ve tried all resolutions to no avail, give yourself a break.
The purpose of this break is for you to think and plan your next action. You should have several preparations in place if you’re planning to finally do what you’ve always wanted, or have the talent to do. It is unwise to leave a paying job just because you don’t like it, to establish yourself with no capital.
This break serves an avenue to plan. Know how fast the pace is moving in your planned industry. Create awareness for yourself. Know your tuff. Be accountable for yourself. Good planning never goes wrong when you’ve done your homework.
Now is your time to take that industry by storm! However, be prepared for setbacks. They will come. And if you’re strong, you’ll come out better than you were. Experience really is the best teacher.
Never stop trying to improve in ways that you can when you notice a fallback in your input to what you do. And no, it doesn’t have to be in a firm. Yours can be the best dry-cleaning company there is in your location. You can be the best plumber, hairstylist, farmer… it doesn’t matter what you do. Your pay also, does not account for your fulfilment. Only you can make you fulfilled. Only you can make you better. The will of others for you to be better is never greater than YOUR will to be better.
Remember to contribute your iota to the well-being of others, your goodwill will comeback to you. Don’t stop learning. Don’t stop believing in yourself. Keep a positive outlook on life, and you’ll be the best of you the world has ever seen!
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